Well, equality isn't a bad thing. The mass wouldn't feed on it. You wouldn't look at it twice if it wore a two piece bikini and pole danced wearing it. Face it, we all like to give couples the once-over if they're eye catching enough and fight for publicity.
It hasn't been easy for us women, you know. Getting waxed and having babies apart, we undergo a huge amount of pain before appearing like a snow-drop for guys to admire. Not all girls look like Angelina Jolie. (and we'd all like to end up with Brad Pitt). But that's not how it works. There are a lot of variables in the equation before you can define characteristics.
When was the last time you wondered why Catherine Zeta Jones married Michael Douglas? Why Princess Diana married Charles(for all the good it did her)? Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart? How about Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Ash/Abhi. come ON. nobody's falling for true love. It's about life, and how you decide to live it.
You want to live reckless? do it. Wise? Good for you! Bored? Fine by me!
When a 20 something woman chooses a 50 something man over a tattooed 30 year DUDE who is very desired amongst her age group, it isn't a snap decision. She probably adds to the oomph factor and she'll probaaably make him feel young again. Talking from her perspective, it would be different albeit refreshing experience to date an older man.
The man, on his part gives her her due and talks intelligently about not just soccer and offers insight into travel and philosophy and opinions on a variety of things going about the world(which she would love to know) and makes her feel like a lady. He is willing to start afresh and is extremely secure and ensures stability.
How does a guy pick his girl? Why do you think that it is almost mandatory for men "committing" to women younger than them(in my case, India)? Because unlike men, who mature if at all, do it slow and steady, women mature early and grow up.
Boys learn; AND take their own time to figure out stuff.
Conclusion: Guys date gurls. Gurls date gurls. Guys date themselves.
Fortunately there are no absolutes in life.
In the end, after all, age is just a number.
But domination??
New evidence has it that stay-at-home moms have plenty of clout. Even if, say, I do have a few friends toying with the thought that an "income" would automatically generate *power*. And not in a bad sense. But the idea is flawed, if you ask me. Income is definitely a plus for running the household. But it isn't solely going to make your relationship stronger! Decision making does not hold employment as a pre-requisite. Why, my grandmother, and mother, for some point of time, managed the purse strings back then even if they were the respective wives(bahuranis) while their husbands slogged it off having assurances in the back of the mind that the household was in good hands.
Money is important. But does it call the shots in a marriage? It shouldn't. Your wife can, or your husband can reach decisions together(by democracy or authority, Meenatchi atchi or Chidambaram, totally varies in every household!) but I wish to make a point. There is a silliness inherent in the brand of feminism that belittles full-time motherhood/homemaking by constantly worrying about the family balance of power. In most modern Indian marriages there is no struggle for supremacy, because most of the husbands are all too happy to let their wives make, or at least share equally in, the decisions. This is an arrangement, that satisfies the majority of couples. And if they're content with it, maybe misogynists/feminists should be too.
Don't think you can stand for power after money comes in. It might work, but it is WRONG.
you made a fine point about feminism in the end. as for the women dating older guys because younger guys are immature is a fallacy. younger women are as immature as younger men. she dates that older man who has experience with life and he has travelled so much, it's because she hasn't done it yet. doesn't that make her immature. it's been scientifically proven that girls mature earlier than boys but that's only limited to communication skills and certain behaviours. in schools boys have been giving gilrs really tough competition. many a times they score more. how do you think that girls are in any way more mature than boys. and the girl wants to feel like a lady but what does she do to make him feel like a man? nothing. that's plain selfish.
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